In this way, a mother becomes part of the background—indispensable, yet unseen. Not because she lacks importance, but because her presence feels guaranteed. This unconscious neurological pattern can leave the one who gives endlessly feeling deeply undervalued.
2. The distance required to become oneself
Psychological growth requires separation. For a child to develop their own identity, they must question, disagree, and create emotional distance from their parents—a process known as individuation.boujida
What feels like self-discovery to a child often feels like rejection to a mother. Yet in many cases, love has not diminished; the child is simply trying to define who they are. When this separation is met with guilt or resistance, the distance often grows even wider.
3. Pain released where safety is guaranteed
