Some experiences divide life into a before and an after. Trying to reproduce the past can become another way of refusing to live honestly in the present.
We built something different.
It was more deliberate, less automatic, and perhaps more valuable because neither of us took it for granted.
Dad called when he said he would.
He included me in decisions that affected both of us. When he had questions, he asked them directly rather than allowing someone else to explain my intentions for me.
I also learned to speak sooner.
Silence had protected me from Vanessa, but I began to understand that silence could become dangerous when used with people who genuinely loved you.
There were moments when I should have asked my father why he seemed distant. There were times when I could have told him I felt pushed aside instead of assuming he would eventually recognize it.